Madeleine Woolgar, coach, teacher and speaker at MumsWhoThrive.com, gives us some beautiful words of reassurance AND an amazing offer (an hour’s coaching FOR FREE)!!
“As mothers, we have some support preparing for the birth of our child, but once they are here, we are on our own.
No one could have prepared you for this. No one taught you how to do it. And yet we often have incredibly high expectations of ourselves as we navigate this journey of motherhood.
You are doing everything you can to raise your child, and take care of your family – and you’re exhausted. No matter how much you do, there is more to do, and it makes you feel like nothing you do will ever feel like enough.
I call it parent-burn out, and you are not alone.
We have become so worn down by motherhood that we start to believe that all these things are inevitable:
- Being exhausted all the time
- Putting everyone else first (and never having time for yourself)
- Never thinking what we do as a parent is enough or good enough
I’m on a mission to help mothers rewrite all of that.
Here’s what I know:
If you’re reading this, what you really want is to be the best parent you can be for your child. But you also know that often you feel so exhausted that you are unable to give the best of yourself to your child. And you really wish it wasn’t that way.
Do you relate? Then there’s two things I want you to know:
- You aren’t alone. So many of the mums who come to work with me tell me they feel this way at first.
- You don’t have to be alone any more.
We live in a culture of shame around asking for support when it comes to parenting, even when we frequently get help in other areas of our lives. You get a personal trainer to help you get into physical shape. You hire an accountant to help with your taxes. Navigating motherhood is no different – you’re allowed to have support.
We, as women, have been taught that we must be self-sufficient, otherwise we are failing as a mother. We think that even though no-one taught us, we should magically know how to navigate this wild ride with our sanity intact. We think we need to be at rock bottom, or barely coping, in order to ask for help. And that’s just not true. There is no shame in asking for help.
In fact, the women who come to work with me find that they are able to be an even more effective parent because they reached out and took the time to support themselves in this way.
My work is based on one very important fact: No one loves their child more or knows their child better than you do. In order to be the best parent you can be for your child, you need to take care of you. Without that, you can’t show up for your family in the way you most want to. It’s my job to help you create a way to navigate parenting that nourishes both you and your child, so you can truly be the best parent you can. This isn’t just a nice sounding idea, it’s a proven method I see transform mothers from totally burnt-out to finally able to consistently parent in the way they most want to.
My invitation to you…
As I say to the women I work with, learning that it is ok to ask for help takes practice. So I am inviting you to start now: I feel so passionate about wanting mothers to know what it’s like to have a professional in their corner that I am offering Kids of Bath readers the opportunity to do my signature initial coaching session with me for FREE (for a short period only). We will spend an hour one-on-one helping you create a plan to get you to where you want to be with your motherhood journey. You will experience what it’s like to say whatever is on your heart and not be judged in any way. You will experience what it’s like to not go it alone any more. Go to www.mumswhothrive.com/starthere and I look forward to seeing you pop up in my diary soon.”